5aTurn your eyes from me; they overwhelm me.
Lest you think that only women get overpowered by love, here is a husband who is overpowered by his wife’s eyes. He melts under their spell. I have been married for thirty one years. I still melt under my wife’s eyes! Now her eyes are not only beautiful, but behind them are all those years of memories, all that laughter, all those tears, all behind the beautiful eyes. Does that mean that every moment over the last thirty one years has been perfect? Of course not! But I have and continue to choose her as the object of my gaze. And even though she is blurry without my tri-focal glasses, she is still my love. And that choice seals my heart. The problems arise when we allow another’s eyes to capture this kind of gaze. There will always be other eyes that can capture. But they don’t have the history of connection that your spouse’s eyes do. So choose to be captured by your spouse’s eyes. Take time to remember the reasons you first fell in love. Remember the good, rich times of connection. Keep them fresh in your memory. Mull them over often, and talk about them with your friends, and with your spouse.
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