8But Rehoboam rejected the advice the elders gave him and consulted the young men who had grown up with him and were serving him.
One of the problems with leaders is that they tend to reject the wisdom of those who went before them in leadership. They have a tendency to do just what Rehoboam did. When we consult with our peers, we have no greater understanding than if we consulted with ourselves. We need the older generations. They have faced many of the challenges that we face and have found ways to be victorious. When we reject their advice, we will have to learn the lessons the hard way. We are doomed to fail. When you need advice, I would suggest that you find someone much older and hopefully wiser to consult. Most of your peers are facing the same struggles that you are facing and stumbling just like you. I would suggest that you find someone who has been successful at life and talk to them. Get to know them. Follow in their footsteps. Seeking marriage advice from someone who is divorced is probably not the best. If you are having marriage problems, talk to someone who isn’t. The tendency is to find someone who is also going through difficulties and commiserating with them. Bankrupt people are not the best source of financial advice. People with no children are not the best at parenting advice. People who have no losses in their lives are not the best at dealing with grief. When we seek only our peers for advice, we will fall short.
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