6 So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.
From the beginning of time marriage was meant to be a permanent connection between a man and a woman. This is a universal truth laid out in Scripture. Only death could sever that union. When a marriage happens, from God’s perspective, the two become one in His eyes. The picture is of a team of oxen placed in the same yoke. They work as a team. They move in the same direction. They can fight and fume with each other, but that just means that they are not being productive. If one of the oxen wants to stop and eat, the other can try to persuade it to move, but large amounts of energy will be expended. It is much easier to move together, to be unified in purpose and intent. It is hard work to be fighting with each other all the time. It is much harder to fight than it is to get along. Life is much easier when both husband and wife yield their wills to each other. When we choose to shift our travel plans to that of our spouse, we choose to give up a little of our self-determination in order to accomplish the unified goal. We can choose to fight all along the way, but that takes too much effort. Studies show that two out of every three things we fight about are unsolvable issues. They deal with personality and permanent values. They are not going to change. We can choose to fight about them, but they probably are never going to change. It is much better to just yield your will, recognizing that it takes a lot of effort that will never yield the results you desire. Most of those areas are areas that provide opportunity for compromise, but both of you can’t have your way. Someone must yield. Why not let it be you.
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